Wouldn’t it be great if you could take a quick swig of confidence to boost yourself, calm your nerves and feel wonderful. Sadly that particular cocktail hasn’t been invented yet. But you don’t really need miracle juice to find your mojo.
Many of the most powerful people in the world suffer from a lack of confidence from time-to-time and some have admitted to being downright terrified at the prospect of having to ‘perform’ in front of someone else – whether it’s a one-to-one, a presentation or a whole stadium. International singers like Robbie Williams and Mariah Carey, Oscar-winning actors including Meryl Streep , global superstars like Oprah have all spoken about their confidence issues. A recent poll of 2,000 British women conducted by shampoo company Head & Shoulders uncovered that 92% of British women are suffering from a lack of confidence that could be holding them back at work.
Self-confidence is a great quality but if you’re unable to see how terrific you are then no-one else will either. Perception is reality –and you can change it. How you feel about yourself and how you present yourself to others has a significant impact on what they think of you, based on what they see, think and hear. Your behaviours and their results matter significantly more than your intentions. Don’t let a lack of confidence get in the way of what you really want and stop you from pursuing your dreams.
Take a moment to reflect on some of the people that you may have come across in your life who were prepared to give something a go even though they weren’t that confident – maybe it was applying for a new job, taking on more responsibility at work or deciding to run a marathon. What’s more, by going for something they really wanted and reaching for their goal, they will have boosted their confidence simultaneously.
There many ways you can build self-confidence consciously and give yourself the edge.
Try this five day SMART plan to boost your confidence now.
An idea is just a dream until you write it down – then it’s a goal. But make it SMART – that’s specific, measurable, realistic and time-bound. So, your goal may be to start running regularly. Great! But with what in mind? To participate in a 5 k, for example? If so, by when? Measure your goal by tracking your progress properly – rather than guessing. There are free apps you can download onto your phone to help and motivate you. It’s great to see the distance build up over time. You could stick your progress on the fridge or a pin board.
Maintain motivation by making sure your goal is achievable – it might be more realistic to aim for finishing the run in half an hour rather than finishing in the top 3. Be realistic; it’s not a great goal to decide to tackle a 5k in a fortnight if you’re a complete beginner! Finally, set a time frame. A deadline will motivate you to get on with it!
See Smart – watch TED!
If you’ve not discovered TED yet ( www. TED.com,) take a look and get inspired by one of the many thousands of motivating and thought-provoking speakers from guerrilla gardeners to internet gurus. What’s more, they’re less than 20 minutes each, so no excuses that you have no time to watch one.
What you say impacts the way you think which, in turn, has an impact on how you behave. Eliminate negative self-talk – can’t, won’t , never – don’t be a hostage to words like this. Rather than telling yourself your can’t do something, you won’t have the time or you’ll never gain the expertise, ask yourself what you need to do to realise your goal; who can you help you and how could you re-evaluate your priorities.
To think confidently, act confidently. Strike a pose and make a positive impression by carrying yourself with confidence! Good posture, walking with purpose, making eye contact and a genuine smile can make an enormous difference to how you are perceived. Try it – and see how empowered you feel.
Manipulate your subconscious mind to get the behaviour you want and to become more confident. If you believe that you are a confident person, you will start to feel and act more confident automatically. Creating a confident and positive image of yourself will make your subconscious believe that is the person you are – so start to alter your thought patterns.
Confidence is the best accessory, so don’t leave home without it.